Common Obstacles One Faces as an Androgyne

1.) Figuring out who and what you are.  There are very few easily available resources for androgynes and it's hard to even find the word unless you know it first.  I came across it by chance.  12 (7.5%)
2.) The path is not laid down in a set path. The way varies from person to person. The results will be different for each individual. The manner may be very different. The definitions may be unique and individual, as well as less defined. The means may be from simple to complex. From a simple realization that one is already there, to a complex body, social, and community (even religious) life changing experience.  11 (6.9%)
3.) You generally have to pick a "binary" pronoun and identity for use in the workplace.  10 (6.3%)
4.) Androgyny isn't a well-known term, and therefore when/if you do want to explain your gender-identity you will need at least an hour after which the most popular reply you will gain is "I don't get it..."  10 (6.3%)
5.) One can fluxuate in their gender identity. Which may range from acceptable and expected to confusion and alarm.  10 (6.3%)
6.) Knowing that you can either "pick one" or be totally open with everyone--there is never any going stealth or just being yourself without any questions.  9 (5.7%)
7) Lack of ability to associate with other genders, and not even fully with other Androgynes (due to the individualistic natures) which can lead to a sense of 'loneliness'.  9 (5.7%)
8.)  Seeing things that the binaries do not, such as 'gender games' between the binaries.  i don't know about you others, but I always want to kick these people in the groin.  It is so irritating, but I guess it is their nature for the women to pretend to be 'helpless' and the males pretend to lose their stupid pool games on purpose for the sole reason of buying the drinks.  GGGRRRrrrrrrr  aaaaaahhhhhhggggggg!  9 (5.7%)
9.)  The fact that transition may start, but it never really ends.  There is no finish line.  You never make it through transition, it is an on-going thing.  8 (5%)
10.) Orientation can become a difficult concept to consider. Rather the whole idea of orientation might be thrown out the window, or simplified to an individual basis.  8 (5%)
11.) understanding what being androgyne actually means is the hardest part, a transsexual can say they are the other sex and even if the extent of this identification or the trouble with deciding on what they will do about it, they know what it means to be male/female. it's harder to understand what it means to be androgyne. 7 (4.4%)
12.) In what information that one does find, one must stay grounded in the true self inner voice. Its true of everything, but a few have written posts about getting lost or feeling lost.  7 (4.4%)
13.) One I have heard more than once is something like "Am I a transsexual that hasnt decided to transition, nor felt the full urge. And am I just holding on the the last threads of my unwanted gender. Or do I embrace both or reject both."  7 (4.4%)
14.)  Because SRS is generally not something most androgynes seek, (would different plumbing really change how I feel about myself?), it can be hard to explain why one may want to look like the opposite sex yet not be.  "Oh yeah, zie looks like a girl but still has hir winky." 7 (4.4%)
15.) If you require surgical or hormonal alteration, you generally have to pay high for black market type stuff or lie like an sob and pretend to be ftm or mtf.  Unless you only figured out the androgyne thing after beginning treatments, that is.  There are some like that. 6 (3.8%)
15.2) There is no null-hormone.  4 (2.5%)
16.) Trying to understand those that limit their gender behavior to just one polar. After experiencing unlimited gender behavior and expressions, only focusing on one is unthinkable to me. Its more like "why?"  5 (3.1%)
17.) Being told by "real" transsexuals and "real" transgendered people that androgyne is a "cop-out" gender identity for people who want the best of both worlds.  That it's the "easy way out."  Bull.  5 (3.1%)
18.) Based on my personal experience; my family-member simply 'brushed it off' when I told her I was Androgyne, and didn't believe it was significant or affecting my life. Thus, I could say; being Androgyne may (on occasion) be seen as an unproblematic gender identity (if even viewed as such).  4 (2.5%)
19.)  Your guy friends don't believe you when tell them that even though you look and act feminine, that you are not gay.  4 (2.5%)
20) Even if you allow yourself to have mixed gender identity (s) in the public or among friends/family, if you focus on one for certain situations, then you get a reverse judgement. Instead of amazing them with mixed gender, they wonder why you are focusing on one and why its not mixed constantly.  3 (1.9%)
21) When your guy friends decide you're hot, then when you tell them "Look, I'm not a girl, I'm gonna change aspects of myself" they start saying "YOU TURNED ME GAY!!"  So, I guess summed up?  The fact that people show hostility to you for "challenging their sexuality." 3 (1.9%)
22.) The strange argument I've encountered on some message boards where male-bodied androgynes claim that females cannot be androgyne.  1 (0.6%)